Tips for Coping During a Divorce

Getting started

Try these tips for less stress and more peace as you move forward through the divorce process.

  • Educate yourself.

    Learn how divorce works in your state. Research legal aid organizations. Ask for advice from trusted friends who've been through a divorce.

  • Have a plan.

    Start by making a to-do list that covers areas like finances, homes, boundaries, and children. Break down the areas into small steps.

  • Consider mediation.

    For some couples, mediation can be more peaceful and lead to better communication than when lawyers are used. Plus, it can be cheaper, quicker, and less stressful.

  • Put your children first (if you have children).

    This can be hard. But your kids will do better if you keep the focus on what's best for them.

  • Communicate and cooperate.

    Do your best not to say bad things about each other. Talk when you're calm and use notes. If things get heated, call a "time-out."

  • Let the relationship change.

    Let go of old patterns. Agree to disagree. And keep the focus on what's really important.

  • Take care of you.

    Be kind to yourself. Pay attention to the things that bring you joy and do more of those things.

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Current as of: March 3, 2020

Author: Healthwise Staff
Medical Review:
Heather Quinn MD - Family Medicine